How can I help my child?

{Excerpt from my ebook – “The Sensitive Subject”, https://amzn.to/2HbBvOQ for INSTANT access.}

💗 How can I help my child? 💗

Just knowing that your child is sensitive helps them massively.

You knowing they are a sensitive means you’re on their team; and when they need it most you can understand, empathise, calm, protect and empower them.

This is something every sensitive needs. You just knowing that they are sensitive and what this means will help them in ways you will never know!

Practice Understanding

Understanding that when they are ‘overwhelmed’, fussy or hyper sensitive, that they’re not acting, making it up or just trying to make life awkward for you. Remember they really do have a sensitive nervous system and if they are having a particularly busy day, aren’t rested or are overstimulated, then they WILL HAVE A MELTDOWN!

Their meltdown is due to the fact they need something and its a job for both of you to work out what that is – whether its a calming technique, to cancel the play date, a cuddle in the toilets, an extra dose of empathy or a day of down-time.

Remove yourself from the “energy” of it i.e. don’t get caught up in their meltdown. Instead, detach and know that taking the time to understand whats going on will reduce, in time, the frequency of meltdowns and drama.

Instead of rolling eyes, or telling them to pull them selves together, or saying “Get a grip, it cant be THAT bad!” (Oh yes, I’ve said that too!) calmly explain to them that you want to understand –

“Mummy wants to understand why you’re so upset, Mummy wants to help you. Thats my job. So try your best to use your voice to tell me, so I can help you.” Over and over again.

Instead of getting frustrated, feeling like your the worst parent in the world and reaching for the nearest bottle of wine, take the time to know:

You’re not alone.
You’re doing the best you can right now.
You’re striving to understand them and thats massive.
You were meant to be a parent to a sensitive child. for INSTANT access.}

💗 How can I help my child? 💗

Just knowing that your child is sensitive helps them massively.

You knowing they are a sensitive means you’re on their team; and when they need it most you can understand, empathise, calm, protect and empower them.

This is something every sensitive needs. You just knowing that they are sensitive and what this means will help them in ways you will never know!

Practice Understanding

Understanding that when they are ‘overwhelmed’, fussy or hyper sensitive, that they’re not acting, making it up or just trying to make life awkward for you. Remember they really do have a sensitive nervous system and if they are having a particularly busy day, aren’t rested or are overstimulated, then they WILL HAVE A MELTDOWN!

Their meltdown is due to the fact they need something and its a job for both of you to work out what that is – whether its a calming technique, to cancel the play date, a cuddle in the toilets, an extra dose of empathy or a day of down-time.

Remove yourself from the “energy” of it i.e. don’t get caught up in their meltdown. Instead, detach and know that taking the time to understand whats going on will reduce, in time, the frequency of meltdowns and drama.

Instead of rolling eyes, or telling them to pull them selves together, or saying “Get a grip, it cant be THAT bad!” (Oh yes, I’ve said that too!) calmly explain to them that you want to understand –

“Mummy wants to understand why you’re so upset, Mummy wants to help you. Thats my job. So try your best to use your voice to tell me, so I can help you.” Over and over again.

Instead of getting frustrated, feeling like your the worst parent in the world and reaching for the nearest bottle of wine, take the time to know:

You’re not alone.
You’re doing the best you can right now.
You’re striving to understand them and thats massive.
You were meant to be a parent to a sensitive child.

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